Y’all are cool and all, but can you please stay out of conversations that revolve around the word n****r? Please? Pretty please with a cherry on top?
There is not now and will never be any acceptable time or place for you to use any variation of that word. It does not matter if you want to say it with an “a” at the end. It does not matter if you want to say it when quoting song lyrics. It does not matter if one black person somewhere told you it was cool.
Whenever you get the urge to use it or question why you can’t or get mad when someone tells you not to, ask yourself these questions:
Why do I want to use a word that has been and is still used to dehumanize a whole race of people?
Why do I want to use this word when I know that people will be hurt and possibly triggered by it?
Why am I fighting so hard to use a word that quite obviously hurts people?